He said, “Listen kid: you are going to get a lot of advice over the next few years from these guys.

After getting a shower, I decided to kill some time by going on line (which meant I was going to surf some porn, rub one out, and go to bed).

As with many guys in their mid 20’s, this was nothing unusual, but I was getting bored with this routine.

Instead of going to my typical sites, I began looking for something new.

I realized that porn wasn’t what I really wanted; I wanted interaction with someone—someone real.

Not to ‘blow my own whistle’, but I am better than just average looking; I’m in perfect shape since I am a firefighter, and I was always really nice to everyone.

But perhaps I was TOO nice, because it was always the same thing: “I just think of you as a good friend.” I’d had a girlfriend here and there and sometimes it would last a few months, but there was never one that I felt like she was ‘the one’.

Not knowing where to start, I decided to check out an online dating site.

I couldn’t believe I was resorting to a personals site, but at least this way I didn’t have to get dressed and spend (waste? The site was offering a ‘free trial’, but you still needed a credit card to prove you were of legal age.

Then he said, “If you don’t find an outlet—something to do with your time off to get your mind off of this job—an outlet will find you. You’re a good kid, rook—find something soon.” I knew I was going to take that advice…